Living the single life

Love is at the dinner table...

Fri, 21 Sep 2007 11:31:07 +0200

Quite often when one runs a business its easy to lose sight of the ultimate goal of the operation in the midst of trying to make a profit and gain new clients. However once in a while its important to take stock and recognise the good that comes out of the service one provides.

Recently Who's For Dinner received a heart warming tale of love that makes it all well worth it. "Hello Ronke, "Meet, Eat and maybe even fall in love..." You certainly deliver Ronke. I did all three thank you very much. Thanks for the invite to The Terrace dinner on 23 March. I met a young lady called G at that dinner, which was my first and only Who's For Dinner date. We started dating shortly after and have been ever since. Fantastic. Best wishes, M" Of course we were so happy to hear from out client and had to let him know it too! He continued "Thought you might like that. Delighted its made your day. Thank you once again. Meeting G's one of the best things that's happened to me all year. M"

So with all the hard work and organisation goes into setting up a Who's For Dinner event its moments like those that make it all worth it. Keep an eye out on www.whosfordinner.com for our next events and keep in touch!

Ronke Lawal

info@whosfordinner.com

2007

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Virtual love and cyber romance

Fri, 20 Jul 2007 11:24:56 +0200

In an age where technology is moving at such high speeds “hover-cars” and “space boots” doesn’t seem so far off. We have become a nation of cyber-junkies. Emailing, web profiles and text messaging have taken the place of phone calls, letters & handshakes. It is not surprising then that the internet has now become such a major resource in the pursuit of finding love. With this we have seen the growth and development of online dating sites. Some of these online dating agencies prove to be better than others and all are offering us a fast and easy way to view a selection of singles that suit our tastes and requirements.

So what are the advantages of online dating and how do you know which are the best sites for your dating needs? Online dating is relatively straightforward; all you need to start with is a profile picture, good internet connection and lots to say about yourself. Many online dating sites have various levels of membership. The most basic normally being free however if you want to make the most out of your online profile the sites requiring a membership fee allow you to access more information about possible love matches. There are also sites that are very specific in the social groups that they are designed for, for instance Asian singles or Caribbean singles making the search for the ideal love match even easier. The best way to find out which sites work for you is by doing some research – asking friends that have used online resources to suggest some and go through a process of trial & error to determine what works best for you.

With all this in mind it’s so easy for us to forget the beauty of human interaction. Therefore the next step upon getting in touch with a possible love match online is to meet them; a daunting but necessary act in the pursuit to find love online. When organising these first dates with an online connection it’s important to ensure that any dates are in safe and interesting places. Restaurants and art galleries are great, traditional places to meet up for that first ice-breaking date, especially as they are in a neutral location. It’s important not to spend too much time getting to know each other online before meeting as quite often profiles can be made to seem better than the real person; which leads to disappointment. New online dating site www.whosfordinner.com aims to re-ignite the importance of genuine social interaction as a form of meeting new people in the dating arena.

By registering online and paying a small membership fee, individuals are invited to Dinner party events in some of London’s best restaurants. The main aim with Who’s For Dinner is about “People meeting people” rather than the faceless world of online dating sites. There are so many ways to meet new people in London; salsa dancing, speed-dating, wine tasting events; that dinner dates make for an interesting alternative to the norm. The main advantage with www.whosfordinner.com is that people are encouraged to make a point of stepping out of their comfort zone and attend dinner parties with at least 5 other singles. Dinner dates consist of people for a variety of ethnic backgrounds and generally include singles ages 25-45 years. Profiles are matched based on similar interests and what each individual is looking for in a partner and dinner dates are organised based on these profiles. So in essence with www.whosfordinner.com every “cyber-romantic” gets the best of both worlds using the internet to expand their social network as well as ensuring as many singles in its database get out there to meet the potential partner of their dreams.

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He's (she's) just not that into you...

Thu, 07 Dec 2006 17:59:54 +0100

Hi guys,

This can be related to quite a few things in life - work, family - if you're not getting that promo you want then they're just not appreciating you enough and perhaps you need to move on. But lets look at it in terms of relationships.

I watched an episode of Oprah recently and it was great fun! They had a gentlemen who had written a book called "He's just NOT that into you" and ladies had lots of questions for him:

We have great sex when we're together and great times when we're together but he can go 3 weeks without calling me! Why?

I've been with my boyfriend for 4 years and I'm ready for marriage but he just wants to travel the world and says he's not ready yet. Why?

I had the most amazing date with a guy 8 months ago but now he only texts and calls me! Why?

Simple none of those guys are into them!

Here's my take on the issue - Let's be honest if we have to start making excuses for someone, start justifying their actions, start reminiscing on good times past rather than glorifying on great times present this person is just not the one.

I'm speaking to the ladies but this is for guys too - if you have to doubt or question a person's actions on how they are treating you that person is not fully and completely valuing your self worth - YOU ARE NOT VALUING YOUR SELF WORTH. You need to commit to the value of you - you're number one and when someone realises that there is nothing that will keep them away!

Typical excuses:

I'm too busy - doesnt have time for you now and never will -be honest even the busiest people in the world CEOs and sportsmen and politicians can have happy and loving relationships.

I've just come out of a serious relationship/just got divorced - If you're right for them they'll know it and they'll be no fear - relationships are not to be feared! Love is not something to be afraid of.

I like things the way they are - doesn't want to commit and won't change them until he's ready - is that really what you want?

I don't want a serious relationship - he just wants a sexual relationship.

Look I'm not preaching to anyone we all make our own choices in life but one choice I think we all need to make is that we CHOOSE TO BE WORTHY! A person who really wants and loves and adores you will call you when they say they will, will want to spend time with you all the time, will like being with you and seeing you - thats the simple truth.

Things to avoid:

Allow yourself to be chased - you need to show that you have a varied life and a relationship is NOT the be all and end all - if a person has to work to see you then that means your worth it!

Do not make excuses for anyone - it doesn't matter how old you are, stop making excuses - He's about to get a divorce from his wife, he's a busy professional - STOP! Firstly never deal with anyone already involved, its shows a lack of self love and secondly excuses mean nothing but that that person does not love you like you deserve to be treated.

Keep things simple - Dating is not brain science - just keep it all in perspective, if the person tells you that they'll call you on sunday at 12pm and they call you on tuesday at 8pm then that person was not thinking of you and does not respect you so don't waste your time!

Pheewwwwwwwww glad I got that all out - please guys and girls feel free to comment this is just my opinion along with the views of others.

Much Love,

Ronke

www.whosfordinner.com

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The ideal dating experience

Wed, 22 Nov 2006 14:45:21 +0100

In my pursuit of creating a great service for singles I've focussed on dinner dates - which people seem enthusiastic enough about but I'm sure there could be more interest!!!

What other dating experiences would make interest people and why? Anything other than speed dating?!

Any funny blind date stories?

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Where have all the good men gone?

Thu, 16 Nov 2006 16:50:50 +0100

Where have all the good men gone?

There seems to be a conspiracy for women in the singles scene, a mystery that not even Agatha Christie or Sherlock Holmes can solve. It’s the mystery of the “Good Man”. They say he exists, he’s been written about and sung about for years, surely not every Hollywood romantic comedy and Mills & Boon novel can be wrong. Somewhere out there for every woman there has to be that “Tall, Dark and Handsome” hero, yet for many women they just can’t find that “good man”.

So what is a “Good man”? Like many things in life this definition is subjective. My simple definition is a man who is confident in himself enough to respect humanity and celebrate the beauty of life. There are many elements that can encompass this – honesty, kindness, passion that we cannot forget, but these lead onto subjective tastes and attitudes. He is a man who is proud in his own skin and with that pride carries his integrity on his sleeve. With this I propose that the “good men” are all around us! To be good is not just about being able to buy your partner the most expensive gifts or raiding Kew Gardens every evening for the perfect bouquet of flowers (although that helps!  ). Anyone can do those things in practice but in principal their hearts and minds are not true.

So where is this elusive “good man” if he does exist?

He is out there but he won’t come to you – you have to find each other. “That’s obvious!” I hear you cry. But honestly how often do you go out with a sexy, CONFIDENT smile on your face, proud of your beauty and exuding your love for life. I’m not talking about going clubbing or to bars with the hope of meeting a “half decent bloke” – I’m talking about going everywhere with the INTENTION of meeting your “good man”. There are so many barriers to that smile, that confidence, that beauty, that it’s a wonder any woman can walk out with her head held high – The bad hair days, the fat days, the memories of those bad experiences we had with those guys that haunt us each and every time we meet someone new… I know it’s hard to positive when there are just days you don’t feel like the beauty queen that you are or when you hear another story about a guy mistreating a lady. But give it some time, let go of all those internal barriers and be comfortable and sure that you are just right the way you are. With that the “good man” (based on the definition I outlined above) will attract each other.

All good things take time and in the mean time might I suggest that we start to celebrate all of our men! Men are absolutely FANTASTIC! Look around you in your community – the bus driver that gets you to destination (after working 10 hours on the same route), your GP (who tries his best to make you feel healthy despite NHS cuts), the fathers and grandfathers who make you feel like a princess. Not forgetting our great men through history: Nelson Mandela, Albert Einstein and Gandhi. Be open to finding your “good man”, he’s just around the corner and he’s searching for you too!
If you want to get out there more why not check out www.whosfordinner.com, http://www.zionone.com/, http://www.dinneranddrinks.co.uk/home/index.php and www.ukafro.com for new ways to meet those “good men”.
Ronke Lawal
www.whosfordinner.com

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Creating the possibility of meeting someone

Fri, 28 Oct 2005 13:19:47 +0200

So I've been thinking that in all honesty I'm far to busy with my current projects to even really consider having a boyfriend. But I have to be open to it right? I mean as far as I can tell from life if you resist something it tends to do more damage than good, so the same must go for love or at least romance. If I go around resisting it and trying to ignore its presence I'll never meet anyone! Lord only knows it would be nice to have that extra person to snuggle up to when my family and friends are all too busy with their own lives. 24 and the future looks...looked bleak...there are potential bed friends out there, I just need to be open to them!

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Weekend

Mon, 24 Oct 2005 13:24:39 +0200

So I went to a very popular night club in central London with some girlfriends, not hoping to pull just wanting to dance the night away. Alas only a couple of random strangers strolled by whispering how great I looked. Which was charming but I don't bite, at least ask me to dance! LOL.

Perhaps we exude a radar of singloe females (not desparate) just single. I've never met anyone in a night club and i guess its not the best place to meet a potential partner but where do you meet them? Answers on a post card please.

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Hungry for love?

Fri, 21 Oct 2005 15:57:24 +0200

I've lived in London all my life and have met many people here and abroad. I've travelled far and wide and met even more people and wherever I go I make friends. In London I have quite a large social network of attractive female friends, the majority of whom are single...mid-twenties and single. No panic yet! We're still in our prime, we have at least 10 more years before our biological clocks start ticking away.

So what's the problem...the problem is according to the glossy mags we should be living the "sex and the city" lifestyle. We're all earning, we're all sexy and we're living in one of the world's most fantastic cities. So why is it when I call one of my single female friends and ask her about her week she has the same answer: nothing much, work, food, more work. I'm afraid if we don't do something soon we'll have a generation of obese workoholic singletons.

I can only speak for the ladies here but what's the problem and what can we do to rectify it if in fact there is a problem...I'm off to eat the rest of last night's lasagne now whilst I ponder it.

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